You're packing for that family trip to Grandma's house in the village, or maybe a much-needed vacation. But if you're parenting an autistic child in Nigeria, you know travel isn't just about throwing clothes in a bag and hitting the road. Between crowded airports, unpredictable road conditions, and unfamiliar environments, what should be an exciting adventure can quickly turn into a sensory nightmare for your child - and a stressful experience for you.
People might say "Ah, don't worry, all children act up sometimes." But you know it's different. That meltdown at Murtala Muhammed Airport last year wasn't just "bad behavior". It was your child overwhelmed by the chaos of Nigerian travel.
The good news? With the right preparation, you can make traveling with your autistic child smoother for everyone. Let's talk real, practical strategies that work in our Nigerian context - from surviving Lagos traffic jams to handling those "helpful" strangers who don't understand autism.
Understanding Your Child's Travel Triggers
Every autistic child is different, but Nigerian travel comes with universal challenges. The blaring horns on Third Mainland Bridge, the overwhelming crowds at ABC Transport park, the unpredictable delays that mess with routines, these can all trigger meltdowns.
Start by making a list of what specifically stresses your child:
Is it loud, sudden noises? Those danfo conductors shouting "O wa o!" might be the problem)
Does change in routine cause anxiety? That "quick stop" at Uncle's house you didn't plan for?Try to avoid it.
Are certain textures or foods an issue? Those "pure water" sachets with their crinkly sound. Always prepare ahead.
Do trial runs. Take short trips to familiar places first - maybe a drive to Shoprite or a visit to a quiet park. Observe what works and what doesn't before attempting longer journeys.
Road Trips: Surviving Nigerian Highways
If you think Lagos-Ibadan expressway is stressful for neurotypical adults, imagine how it feels for a child with sensory sensitivities. Here's how to make road travel more manageable:
Vehicle Preparation is Key
Create a sensory-friendly space with familiar items - their favorite pillow, noise-canceling headphones, or that well-worn stuffed animal. Pack a cooler with preferred snacks. Forget "they'll eat when hungry" and have those gala and chin-chin ready.
Use sunshades on windows if bright light is an issue. Nigerian sun don't play so be ready.
Timing Matters
Traveling early in the morning or later at night reduces traffic, lowers sensory input from noise and heat, and makes things generally more manageable. Avoid high-traffic days like Fridays and Sundays, and always allow more time than the trip usually takes so you're not rushed. Rushing only makes things harder for everyone plus will you really make Lagos to Abuja in 5 hours?
Breaks Are Non-Negotiable
Schedule stops every 2-3 hours at familiar spots, preferably somewhere with clean facilities and space to stretch. Some filling stations have decent rest areas. Have a "reset kit" ready - wipes, change of clothes, comfort items in case of a meltdown.
Flying in Nigeria: Navigating Our Chaotic Airports
Murtala Muhammed Airport on a busy day is basically sensory overload central. Here's how to survive:
Before the Flight
Call the airline ahead about special assistance (some are more helpful than others) Ask if they allow pre-boarding or have dedicated services for children with special needs. Request pre-boarding and bring a doctor's note explaining your child's needs (helps with security for stim toys or medications)
At the Airport
Arrive extra early to move through check-in slowly. Moving slowly through each stage - check-in, security, waiting - can make a huge difference. If your budget allows, consider paying for lounge access. The calm environment may be worth every naira for reduced chaos. Also prepare for security by practicing removing shoes/jackets at home if needed.
On the Plane
On the plane itself, book window seats and bring chewy snacks. Window seats often help limit visual distractions, and chewing gum or chewy snacks can reduce ear pressure. Don't rely on airline entertainment. Load familiar shows, music, or games onto your phone or tablet, and be sure everything works offline. Please don't count on airline entertainment.
Managing Meltdowns in Public
That moment when your child starts screaming in a crowded Ebeano supermarket and everyone turns to stare? We've got strategies:
Stay calm - your anxiety makes it worse
Have an exit plan for every location
Carry a simple explanation card ("My child has autism, we're managing it")
Ignore judgmental looks (yes, even from that "perfect parenting" aunty). What looks like a tantrum is often overwhelm. Your child isn't being difficult, they're struggling.
Choosing Autism-Friendly Accommodations
Not all hotels are built with sensory needs in mind. Look for quiet locations, away from generators or busy roads. Check if their rooms have controllable AC/lighting and if your child has strict dietary needs, accommodations with kitchens or freezers in the room make it easier to cater to your child's needs.
Better option? Consider serviced apartments where you can control the environment more.
Dealing With Cultural Perceptions
You'll likely encounter strong opinions. "You're spoiling that child," or "Na flog dem dey use correct this thing" are phrases many Nigerian parents of autistic children have heard more than once. You don't have to explain yourself to everyone, but it helps to have a few ready responses. A calm "We're following medical advice" or "This is a neurological condition" can sometimes open the door to awareness. Other times, it's better to nod and walk away.
Don't Stop Traveling
It's tempting to just stay home where everything is controlled. But your child deserves experiences too - they just need the right support. Start small, learn what works, and gradually expand their comfort zone.
The more you travel with the right preparation, the easier it gets. And that proud moment when your child handles a trip better than last time? Priceless.
Next Steps:
1. Try a short test trip close to home
2. Make notes on what worked/didn't
3. Gradually increase distance as you both gain confidence
Because here's the truth: Your child can enjoy traveling too - it just takes understanding, preparation, and lots of patience. You've got this!